Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Help Wanted?

Hubby is getting discouraged. He applies to job after job, ranging from warehouse work to restaurant work to road crew work and still nothing. He hits the streets once or twice a week to apply in person to jobs advertised in the paper, only to be told to fill out an application online. This is the future of job searching-- online applications where you have no human contact with anyone other than yourself. You push a bunch of keys and leave your personal information, then you get a confirmation email thanking you for your interest and you will be notified of any future contacts. Which results in nothing.

It makes it very hard to know why he isn't getting hired-- Is he too old? Age discrimination? Did he make too much money in a previous job and the future employer cannot match that income and therefore does not hire him? Does he not have enough experience in that particular field? How will he know the answers to these questions if no one calls him and takes the time to learn about him? How do these employers know that he doesn't care if this job offers less pay than his previous job if they don't talk to him? How will these people know that he is willing to learn and has more experience than the application asks about?

He talks about the "good old days" where there would be a "Help Wanted" sign in the window and you'd go in, grab that sign, look for the boss and you'd be hired on the spot. He has been background checked and fingerprinted and drug tested so many times, that he is afraid to do one little wrong thing because his record is now spread out all across the country.

It's a scary thing to have all his personal information left on all these applications either on real paper or on various internet sites. In this day and age of identity theft, his information is probably easily accessible to any one with a more than basic knowledge of computer programming. The spam we get on our email account is unbelieveable and increasing daily, but I cannot block them if one of those emails might be from a potential employer. So every day, I sort through hundreds of "make your penis bigger" type emails and "your medical order is here" emails and bogus "work from home and earn $63,986 a week!" emails.

But he is caught between a rock and a hard place, he fills out the applications because if he doesn't, it is considered incomplete and the application will not be filed.

I can see there are days when not working affects him more than others. He gets testy and stomps around the house and I know to stay out of his way, that this would be a bad time to bring up the clogged toilet or that the car needs more gas. I try to do what I can to take his mind off of his job hunt, but there is only so much I can do. It weighs heavily on him that he cannot find work and support us financially. I tell him that I will always stand by his side, through thick and thin, for richer or poorer.

I read somewhere recently, if everyone were to hang their problems on a clothesline, people would stick with their own problems. There are people out there worse off than we are, with empty bellies and cold concrete to lay on at night and illnesses with no cures.

Things will get better. I know they will. They have to.


Deb Ann said...

My hubby went though the same thing for the two reasons: he makes too much and his age is close to 60. He got laid from his last job, but we are all fine. God provides what we need and for our children. God has blessed us so much so far. Thank you for sharing your post! ;)

sufferingsummer said...

You are right, it will all be fine. We have been there. Not long ago and it does seem that just when you come to the end of your rope something comes up. Hang in there, I know it is oh so hard and those words sound cliche' but I mean them. God will provide I just know it, it just might not be how and when you expect it!

Barbara said...

Sorry to read there's still no job and that your dh is feeling discouraged. I hope and pray that things will pick up soon.

Kelly - said...

Hi there...

Tell your hubby to hang in there.

Has he thought about applying for RailRoad job? My husband works for the NS Railraod and loves it. Although the hours and days off can be really weird. (if your hubby wants more info - e mail me and I will try to direct him to a website that he can check out if there is one)

How about the UPS? The health insurance is awesome there! My husband worked there part time and during the first part of my pregnancy, we didn't pay a dime til he left there to work at the RR full time)

How about FedEx? Heard the pay there is good.

Perhaps a part time job somewhere to hold out for a while?

Thought I would throw out some ideas for y'all.

I know it is tough, hon. We have been there and done that.

Kelly --

barefoot gardener said...

Oh, sweetie. I know it can be so hard (especially on men) when money becomes such a big issue. I remember trying to be supportive of Mr. Barefoot when we were at our lowest point and not knowing what to say or how to say it. I remember walking on eggshells because he was beating himself up over his inability to provide the lifestyle he felt we all deserved. My heart goes out to you both.

I think you are right to keep a positive attitude that things will get better. We are all hoping for the best, and I am not so jaded yet that I don't believe that perserverance pays off. If your hubby keeps trying he will find something.

I wish there was something I could do to help, someone I could call to put in a good word for him. I wish I could make it all better for you all.

I will continue to think of you and send good wishes your way. Stay strong and know that we all care.

Wendy said...

I hear your frustration. It sounds familiar.

My husband just joined the Coast Guard - not because he didn't have a job, but because he really (really!) needed to get out of the job he was in, and the Coast Guard offers a benefits package and pay rate that's comparable to what he was earning. The downside is that we might have to move, which is not very appealing to me, but I guess we do what we have to ;).

jenny said...

Deb ann-- I'm glad that God has blessed you and your family and has taken care of you all. We feel the same, we wouldn't have gotten this far without our faith in God.

Summer-- Sometimes those cliches are true!! We are hanging in there, it would just be nice to breathe a little instead of wondering what bill we won't be able to pay next month. We're keeping the faith! :o)

Barbara-- Thank you for your prayers. :o)

Kelly-- Actually Hubby DID apply to the railroad in the next town over, never heard back from them. Thanks for your suggestions! We will check them out! :o)

jenny said...

Barefoot-- Thank you sweetie! I try to stay positive, though I have my weak moments and I'll break down and just worry worry worry-- usually when it comes time to paying the bills. I have faith that something will come along soon for him, I just wonder how much further into the hole we have to go before it happens! Just say a prayer for us and let's hope something comes along soon! You've already done so much for us, thank you from the bottom of my heart!! :o)

Wendy-- Hubby checked out the Coast Gaurd website and found there is an office not too far from us!! A few positions open, too! Will fill out an application and see what happens. I told Hubby that if we had to, we would sell the house and move. As much as I like this house and the location, it isn't alays ideal to be this far from where the jobs are. Your suburbs posts ring true for me in a lot of ways. Nothing we can do except wait and see...