I believe that life will be as hard or as easy as you make it. You can say that you are having a bad day, and then your day will continue to be bad as long as you think it. The same applies to saying you are having a good day. Can it be so simple? Can positive thinking really change the outcome of the day? I think so. Not always, because how can the death of a loved one taken so suddenly be looked at positively? How can a broken heart be seen as a good thing right at that moment. But in the long run, I really think your outlook changes the end result.
I have a friend, bless her heart, who finds fault with many things and with people. She will remember a time 15 years ago, that someone said something bad to her and will not let it fall into the past. She will talk about an event over and over and there is no use trying to change the subject. You can see in her eyes that she is really disturbed by it and her face shows such displeasure and just her body language tells that she is unhappy about it. I have watched her and I love her and accept that this is her. She is so set in her ways that she knows no other lifestyle or way of thinking. I accept her and love her as she is. Because I know this of her, it is easy for me to listen and at the end of the day, I don't feel burdened or angry at why she is this way. She just is.
I have watched her and learned that this is not the way I want to be. I do not want to hold a grudge against someone for the rest of my life and let this grudge eat at my soul. I do not want to look at things in a negative way and taint my view of life and people. I want to have an open mind and learn new things, meet new people, and forgive old enemies. I have learned to forgive and let go. To leave the past in the past and remember the good things. If someone has hurt me, I'll forgive and I will let go, but I will be more wary the next time and not be so careless with my heart. For that is what we do, we open ourselves to new people and experiences and we let them hold our hearts or our souls, we grasp their hands and trust in them to lead us and take care of us and not to cause harm to us.
I have looked into my life and the people that I surround myself with. I try to stay near to positive people and experiences. I have whittled away the negative things in my life and tossed away extra baggage. What I have left is something I am happy with. I have my Hubby, I have my 3 daughters, my home and my little projects that make me smile. I have a few close friends and family. This is what makes my life enjoyable. I am a big believer in what goes around, comes around. I try not to say anything bad about anyone and try to treat everyone that I meet kindly and with respect. I don't need Karma to hunt me down and bite me in the ass over some unkind thing I did or said.
Granted, I have my days where I struggle not to let negative thoughts pull me down. I have to really will that glass to be half full and not half empty. But I like to think that if you think it, feel it, know it and live it, your life can be better. You have a choice to make when you open your eyes in the morning, you can wake and say, "It's a new day!" or you can say, "Ugh! Another day." I made my choice, what's yours?